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Saturday, March 19, 2011

Beautiful Quotes

If you are right then there is no need to get angry
And if you are wrong then you don't have any right to get angry.

Patience with family is love,
Patience with others is respect,
Patience with self is confidence, and
Patience with GOD is faith.

Never Think Hard about PAST,
It brings Tears...
Don't Think more about FUTURE,
It brings Fears...
Live this Moment with a Smile,
It brings Cheers.!!!!

Every test in our life makes us bitter or better,
Every problem comes to make us or break us,
Choice is ours whether we become victim or victorious !!!

Search a beautiful heart not a beautiful face.
Beautiful things are not always good
but good things are always beautiful.

Search a beautiful heart not a beautiful face.
Beautiful things are not always good
but good things are always beautiful.

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Dealing with Insult - Lord Buddha

Someone sent us this in e-mail. I felt it is something to save and read every so often, hence this post.

The Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion.
One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."
Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"

The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."

The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."

"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."

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Sunday, May 09, 2010

The Paradox of Choice

I was reading something recently that the business unit which targets consumer and small business segment had on their website. It talked about the Paradox of Choice - Why More can sometimes be Less and referenced Barry Schwartz's book by this name. It discussed how limiting the number of choices and making device set up easy can greatly improve the user experience and satisfaction when it comes to consumers who just want basic capability.

Having recently spent an entire weekend trying to setup a router for my home office and having trouble doing so, I could appreciate their thesis. Later I found out I was not supposed to try and configure the router at all. Rather, I was supposed to simply invoke a pre-loaded script that would install a pre-defined configuration. It took me literally twenty minutes to do this. It was a breeze and I felt like a fool having wasted the entire weekend struggling with complex configuration choices I did not understand!

Apple has figured out the power of simplicity long ago. Most apple computers come prebuilt with the devices they need and there is not much the user can add. Even the iPod is such a hit because of the extremely simple interface.

Choice sometimes gives people a sense of control. I remember hearing in a radio program about parenting that parents should offer even young kids a choice rather than being very prescriptive. So, rather than saying "It is cold outside, wear your jacket" the parent could say "It is cold outside, would you like to wear your blue jacket or brown sweater". This gives the child a sense of control, that they can choose what they wear.

Being a vegeterian, I often find that during company functions there is just one vegeterian meal option. Whereas there are several non-vegeterian meals to pick from. This annoys me and I would rather have the option to choose which among a variety of vegeterian meals I would want.

However, having a choice can sometimes make life difficult. Among all my immigrant friends, those that have a choice of either living here or returning to their native country are the ones who are often restless, especially when life in their native country is also good. Among those that return to their native land, the ones that don't have the option of coming back to the US settle down and move on with their life. Where as those that can come back keep wondering whether they should return to the US. The grass often seems greener of the other side. Having the choice makes them miserable.

Similar situation occurs when one gets two job offers and both are equally good, or one gets accepted into two or more universities each of which is as prestigious as the other. Or worse yet, if one is in love with more than one girl and has to choose one that he will marry. Having to choose can be agonizing.

These days there seem to be so many choices in every aspect of life from cable plans to phone plans, insurance schemes, investment choices, career choices, choices of medicines. Understanding the choices and the pros and cons of each can be a harrowing experience. Often it causes stress and anxiety.

Sometimes more is less!

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Saturday, May 08, 2010

Attitude towards Life

Follwoing is an excerpt from Og Mandino's bestseller The Greatest Salseman in The World. Simple and yet so profound. I like to read it periodically to adjust my attitude.
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
And how will I do this? Henceforth will I look on all things with love and be born again.
I will love the sun for it warms my bones; yet I will love the rain for it cleanses my spirit.
I will love the light for it shows me the way; yet I will love the darkness for it shows me the stars.
I will welcome happiness as it enlarges my heart; yet I will endure sadness for it opens my soul.
I will acknowledge rewards for they are my due; yet I will welcome obstacles for they are my challenge.

~ Og Mandino

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Saturday, May 01, 2010

Men Of a Certain Age

Recently I watched a couple of episodes of Ray Ramano's sitcom Men Of a Certain Age. Being one of them, that is, "Men of a Certain Age", it resonated with me. Over the past year or so I sense some kind of shift in my perception of my life. It is a subtle change, not easy to explain.

It is somewhat of a feeling of having reached "steady state". My career is probably at a point where there isn't much upward mobility left. But, fortunately for me, rather than the so called "Mid life Crisis" that some go through at this stage in life, I have a feeling of contentment.

My calculations show I will be able to pay off my house loan in another 15 years, something I couldn't imagine when I purchased this house. Kids are becoming more independent and doing well. There's a soothing feeling that life is good and I can put my life on "cruise control".

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Sunday, May 17, 2009

Ant and the Grasshopper

Years ago we had a story in our engligh book titled The Ant and the Grasshopper. It was about two brother, one who had a family, saved regularly, had no vices, was hard working and the other who was more of a casanova, refused to settle down, had no steady job, often got into trouble and had to be bailed out by his brother. If I remember correctly, in the end, the careless brother marries a rich old widow and ends up with her huge estate worth much more than what his diligent, coservative brother is able to accrue from years of hard work and sensible living.

Fortuenately, life is not always so unfair. The recent economic crisis, especially the trouble in the housing market, somehow reminded me of the Ant and the Grasshopper. For years, my wife and I had been wanting to buy a house. We saved consistently and resisted the temptation of investing money we were saving for the house, in the stock market which tends to be volatile. We waited until we had saved enough for a twenty percent downpayment and until my job was more secure.

It was not easy. People around us were buying nice houses. Some got interest only loans to buy expensive house they could otherwise not afford. Many remodelled as soon as they moved in. It made me wonder if we were missing out on a great opportunity.

However, our careful conservative approach seems to have paid off. When we finally purchased a house, we did so with full disclosue of our income. I figured that if the bank decided we could not afford the loan it meant we were trying to buy a house we could not afford. We resisted temptation of getting an interest only loan to make our budget stretch and went for a 7/1 ARM.

After we moved in, we spread out our home improvement expenses, always ensuring we had money to pay for the improvements we sought to make. Recently as the economy faltered and the government began printing money to be able to sfford a stimulus package, we refinanced into a fixed rate mortgage expecting that in a couple of years all the money pumped into the economy will cause inflation and lead to higher interest rates.

Only time will tell whether we are doing the right things but so far it does seem like living within our means has paid off.

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Thursday, December 27, 2007

The Kids' Band

A couple of months ago my son and his friend began jamming togehter. My son plays electric guitar and his friend plays the drums. Both had just begun learning the instruments they play. Soon they announced they had formed a band, with just two members, them. My wife and I smiled when we heard of it. We thought it was cute. They were trying to play some of the songs both of them knew. They were hardly synchronized and it almost appeared like each was playing on his own. After a couple of sessions they seemed to improve. They were better coordinated and each had developed greater mastery over their instruments.

Then word got out about the band. My son mentioned it to his friend from school. His friend told his parents, who asked if the band would be interested in performing at their daughter's sweet sixteen birthday party. My son's friend joined in as a second guitarist. They recruited the birthday girl's friend as a vocalist and another family friend to play the keyboard. Low and behold they seemed to have a complete band!

The opportunity to play in front of a real audience truly galvanized the band. It gave them a clear goal and focus. They sought guidance from a family friend who is part of a professional band. One day he spent five hours with the kids and the band was substantially transformed. What a difference a little guidance made! He became their mentor and continued to guide them.

After several practice sessions came the big day. The kids were nervous but excited. They played well and the audience loved it! Some young kids from the audience sought their autographs after the performance. The kids had turned into stars!

Emboldened by their birthday performance my son and his friend decided to perform at a community function in front of an audience of over 300 people in a formal auditorium and on stage. They practised frequently and developed their own composition for the event. Again, the performance was a big hit.

It was amazing to see this informal band transform into a pretty serious affair in less than six months. Recently we heard of a competition called Batlle Of The Bands organized by a local high school. Our kids decide to participate and approached the organizers. Upong learning that most of the band participants were middle school kids the organizers expressed doubt about their participation in this compitition meant for High School kids. Besides, the kids were not ablt to go for auditioning due to schedule conflicts. However, upon viewing the DVD of the band's birthday performance, the competition organizers not only waived the audition but moved the band straight to the finals!

The band experience is helping the kids develop several life skills. They are learning teamwork, how they have to sometimes sarifice their personal desires for the good of the group, how to work hard to achieve a goal, how to keep focus, how to plan, how to handle disappointment, and most of all to have fun! It also gives them self confidence and a sense of achivement and purpose.

When I heard the kids play at their practice session yesterday I was truly amazed. If you did not actually see them, you would think it was a professional band playing. They are that good.

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Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Mom goes on vacation

This year my in-laws celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. They had a nice ceremony and several friends and relatives gathered for the event. My wife's siblings urged her to fly to India for this event. Initially my wife was reluctant to go, citing concerns about how I would manage without her and how our younger one would handle the separation from Mom. However, with some coaxing from me and encouragement from the kids she went, by herself, for the first time since the kids were born!

As it turned out, the kids are handling this quite well. Our older one is quite independent anyway and the younger one saw this as an opportunity to prove to herself and others that she is a big girl now. Between school, homework, TV and friends, they kept themselves busy. They even helped me pack their lunches!

Then came the winter break when school is closed and kids are home. However, to my surprise, even then they seem to go about their routine as usual. With sleepovers, holiday movies, dinner at friends & family, they have been comfortably busy. They even help fold the laundry, vacuum the carpet and prepare dinner.

As it turns out, I seem to be the one that misses my wife the most. And it is not because of the burden of extra things I have to take care of in her absence. Sure, it is much easier when she's around and we share responsibilities. But I can handle the cooking, cleaning, paying bills, doing the laundry, etc. It sometimes means I don't get to go for my workout or watch my favorite TV show, but for a couple of weeks I can handle this.

What affects me more is the lack of her companionship. Her reassuring smile, her loving voice, her comforting hugs and the power of her sheer presence. But I know she deseves a break. A complete break with no responsibilities, nothing to worry about but herself. It also reminds me that true love is about thinking about the happiness of the person you love even if it makes things difficult for you. That, our kids seem to be better at than me. They get it from their Mom. I am the one who needs to grow up!

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